i love the Women Against Feminism that are like “I dont need feminism because i can admit i need my husband to open a jar for me and thats ok!” cause listen 1. get a towel 2. get the towel damp 3. put it on the lid and twist. BAM now men are completely useless. you, too, can open a jar. time to get a divorce
Whoops almost woke the baby with my lulz.
It’s one of those nights where sleep evades. It’s too far out of reach, somewhere beyond the forests of self-doubt and mountains of haunting mistakes that relentlessly mock my crumpled spirit.
What have i gained after these 31 years of life? A taste for defeat, an inclination to turn away instead of embrace, an insurmountable pile of self-doubt, and the most glorious ability to destroy anything i begin to build by loathing every shred of the person i have become. And every last bit of it is my own fucking fault.
Anonymous said: my doctor just told me i have PCOS. i looked it up online but i still don't really understand. should i be doing anything about it? she didn't really tell me what to do....
PCOS is Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. It’s super interesting and about 300% confusing, even to providers, since it’s not a specific disease. Syndromes are collections of symptoms that often happen together, and are not well enough understood to be explained in any other way. The definition of PCOS, in fact, is a list of 3 symptoms, of which you have to have at least 2:
- A decrease in periods (short periods or very long intervals between periods, sometimes no periods)
- Polycystic ovaries - an ultrasound must show cysts on your ovaries
- Symptoms of excess testosterone, such as acne or excess body/facial hair
If you have at least two of those things listed above and there’s nothing else causing them, then we can say you have PCOS. I don’t know what your symptoms are, but if you want to PM me I can talk to you a little bit more about them.
So what does that mean for you? You might be overweight (whatever that means to you), have facial or body hair or acne that is distressing to you, you might have super wonky periods, and difficulty getting pregnant.
If you have a high BMI (and I won’t go into the fact that BMI is a total sham and means nothing since that would take an entire other post, but it is the way the medical community talks about weight) you might find that loosing even 10% of your body weight can restore normal periods, increase fertility (if you’re trying to get pregnant), decrease other potentially distressing symptoms like facial hair or acne.
Let me interrupt myself momentarily when I say that I only point out these symptoms and talk about managing them it is only because many people DO find them distressing. If you do not find them to be, please don’t think that I’m telling you that you SHOULD be distressed by your body weight or appearance. I absolutely do not mean that.
Still, a lot of people have difficultly losing weight because PCOS actually makes it HARDER to lose weight. So it’s sort of a catch 22. If you want to become pregnant, weight loss is often necessary. If you do not want to become pregnant, it is very important to begin a birth control method to protect your uterus since the type of wonky periods that people with PCOS have can increase your risk for endometrial cancer. So if you are not interested in having babies ASAP, get on a birth control method like the Mirena.
Other than that, you’re fine. It’s not a disease that is fatal or will even significantly affect your life except for the things I mentioned above. If you have more specific questions and want to make a specific plan, make another appointment with your provider just to talk about the PCOS and figure it out. Or if you’d rather, feel free to make an appointment with someone else (allow me to make a shameless plug for midwives) who might be able to spend more time with you and explain things to you more clearly. Good luck!